Uptown Girls

What I've been talking about up until now can be illustrated using a popular movie. In Uptown Girls, Molly Gunn lost her parents in a plane crash when she was almost 8 years old. Her father, Tommy Gunn, wrote and sang a song called Molly Smiles in his last concert before he died. He wrote it for his daughter, immortalizing her beautiful smile. But after her mother and father died, she was never able to be truly happy again and she lost her smile. For 16 years, she ran away from the grief over her parent's deaths. She drowned herself in addictive, impulsive, and completely intoxicating romantic relationships. Throwing herself into these codependent love affairs allowed her to focus on her boyfriends' lives so that she didn't have to face her own life. She was able to remain eight years old emotionally until her 22nd birthday when her inheritance got stolen. She was forced to go out into the adult world and get her first job. She found herself  nannying an eight-year-old girl, the same age as Molly's emotional self.
This girl named Lorraine, or Rae, was dealing with the loss of her own parents. Her workaholic mother neglected Rae, leaving her to raise herself. Her father was kept in the house's library where he lay in a coma after experiencing a massive stroke. As a coping mechanism, Rae was constantly angry so that she didn't have to feel sad about losing her own parents. Molly explained that when her own parents died, things just became a blur. Molly ran away to Coney Island Amusement Park when she was 8 years old, where she got on the teacup ride and her world spun around and around. She got off the ride physically but never emotionally. She kept the world in a blur with her sex addiction and hiding from the adult world like Rae was keeping her life in a blur by constantly being angry and hiding behind sunglasses. Later, in the movie, she gets back on the teacup ride physically with Rae. In doing this, Molly picks up emotionally where she left off. The two girls were only then able to face their emotions and finally heal.